Parenting A Leader - Rules VS. Relationship
By Billy Sticker One day when Brady was around four years old, he was sitting on his bed as I walked in and asked him to pick-up in his room. With an as a matter of fact attitude Brady says, You know Dad, youre not the boss of me. God is. Surprised, I responded, Yes, this is true. However, God made your mom and me your boss. Brady answered, Dad, God created us because He wanted friends. It doesnt say anything in the Bible about the Sticker Family! The wisdom of a four year old, God created us because he wanted friends. We were not created to me servants of God. He wanted friends. If you can truly realize the truth in those words, it will change your life. It is not about the rules. It is about the relationship. Whether we are talking about your relationship with your spouse, children, boss, or God, you must first have the relationship, before you can ever follow the rules. Lets think about your relationship with your spouse. There are certain rules that you know that you are going to have to keep. (Ex: No going out every night to party with your friends. No inappropriate relationships. No coming and going as you please.) You can focus on keeping the rules, but that will not give you the relationship. However, if you focus on building the relationship, you can forget about the rules. You are not going to want to go out every night if you are truly focused on the relationship you have with your spouse. The Old Testament tells the story of when Joseph told Potiphars wife that he could not have an affair with her was because it would have been a sin against God. The question is, how did he know it was a sin? The story took place BEFORE the Ten Commandments! The answer is, because he had a relationship with God. Our children are the same. If we focus on building healthy relationships with our children, the rules will take care of themselves. Am I saying you do not need to give your children rules and limitations? Of course not. I am saying to make sure you put more emphasis on having a relationship with your children, not just rules. Billy Sticker, successful business man and leadership expert, has developed personalized leadership training programs for churches as well as multi-million dollar corporations. He is the writer of The ABC Leader parenting and leadership newsletter, which currently has subscribers all across the USA as well as 12 foreign countries. He frequently speaks and consults with organizations on topics such as leadership development, marketing, selling over the phone, client follow-up, customer service, and goal setting. Billy is also an ordained minister with over 13 years experience including children, youth and adult ministry. To find out more about Raising A Leader, go to http://www.abcleader.com or http://www.billysticker.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Billy_Sticker http://EzineArticles.com/?Parenting-A-Leader—Rules-VS.-Relationship&id=492667 prescription order viagra without cheap generic viagra online where to buy viagra online how to buy viagra without prescription
